BLOG TOUR: Stop Self-Sabotage by Dr. Judy Ho @DrJudyHo @Harper_Wave @SuzyAPBookTours #stopselfsabotage #blogtour

Have you ever gotten yourself into trouble by not paying your bills on time? Failed at a diet AGAIN? Struggled to open up in a relationship? Almost missed a work deadline because you couldn’t stop checking social media?

These are all examples of ways that we self-sabotage. In Dr. Judy Ho’s new book, Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way, you’ll learn why we do these things, follow exercises to dig into your personal triggers, and practice ways to finally stop the cycle of self-sabotage.

If you are anything like me, you’ll want to rush in, skip the intro, and flip pages to the end to find the magic cure for this behavior. Well, I hate to spoil it, but there is no magic cure. However, I did follow the exercises and complete the charts as I went, and I’ll tell you that it will take work to change my behavior, but I’ve already seen positive changes through my efforts.

Actually, my favorite part of the book was learning about the primary motivations behind self-sabotage. I read through them all and I initially felt hopeless. I kept thinking “oh no, I do all of these!” But actually after I did the exercise to diagnose behavioral markers, I found that two were much stronger motivators of my self-sabotage, and the others I barely scored on at all.

This is the importance of reading this book all of the way through. It’s easy to skim and think—ok, I’ve got this. Fear? Check! Stop being afraid? That must be the key! But actually the reason we are in these cycles of self-sabotage is that we don’t really have good insight into why we are doing it or how to stop it. I thought I knew what my triggers were, but when I worked through this book I realized that I wasn’t focusing on the right thing.

I also broke this book into chunks when I read it. I started slow, with the exercises around diagnosing and learning to note when I’m falling into my self-sabotage triggers. Then, as I got more comfortable recognizing the patterns, I began the more specific exercises designed to help me change my behaviors and thought patterns. I kept a notebook for mine, but you could also write directly in your book.

I recommend this to even those who think they don’t struggle with self-sabotage. Often we don’t realize how we are sabotaging ourselves! We think it is just the way we are wired, or we blame other things (e.g., my coworkers were being too chatty so that is why I got behind). But the truth is, we are in control of our own behaviors and we can stop these cycles with patience and discipline.

Thank you to Suzy for my chance to be on the tour!

About the Book

Award-winning psychologist and TV personality Dr. Judy Ho helps you stop the cycle of self-sabotage, clear a path to lasting happiness, and start living your best life in this a must-have guide perfect for fans of You Are a Badass, Unf*ck Yourself, and How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t.

Have you ever had a deadline for a big work project, only to find yourself down to the wire because you spent too much time on social media? Or gotten excited about meeting someone new, only to convince yourself he isn’t really interested? How many Januarys have you resolved that this is the year you’re finally going to lose the weight, only to abandon your diet in mere weeks? If these scenarios sound familiar, you are stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage.

At one point or another, we’ve all done something that undermines our best interests and intentions. Even the most successful people get in their own way-often without realizing it. In Stop Self-Sabotage, licensed clinical psychologist, tenured professor, and television personality Dr. Judy Ho takes a fresh look at self-sabotage to help us answer two vital questions: Why do we do it? How do we stop?

Combining proven psychological strategies with practical tools and self-assessments, Dr. Judy teaches you how to identify your triggers, transform your thoughts and behaviors, and most important of all, start living the life you want. From the first page, this practical and effective guide gives you strategies and tools to make lasting, positive change.

About the Author

Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN is triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, and published author. Dr. Judy maintains a private practice in Manhattan Beach, CA where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological assessments and expert witness work. She regularly appears as an expert psychologist on television and other media, and is currently a cohost on CBS’s Face the Truth and author of Stop Self-Sabotage (available for pre-purchase now). She is a two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award and hosts an active research program to improve mental health care for high-need populations.

Dr. Judy received her bachelor’s degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA’s Semel Institute.

Dr. Judy resides in Los Angeles, CA and enjoys snowboarding, writing music, singing, running, biking, cooking, playing video games, and dabbling in the art of flying trapeze during her time away from work. Her favorite pup is the Border Collie, and most memorable places to travel include Greece, Italy, and Sweden. She loves writing and can’t wait to begin her second book project (details coming soon).